How do you know you’ve done a good job as a parent? Is there a point when you get to sit back, cross your arms, and say (probably quite smugly!) “Look at that. Job done. What next?!”
Now, I am pretty new to this parenting game, but I would hazard a guess and say “no”. So far, I have days when I feel like I’m on top of everything – kids are happy, dirty laundry pile is non-existent and dinner is in the oven! Why yes, I am superwoman – hear me roar! And then, within moments, reality hits – all three children start crying at once, Belle power-chucks all over the couch, or (and this is my personal favourite) Ava tells me (in the way only a 3-year-old can) “Mama, don’t tell me what to do. I’m the boss.”
I think, instead of seeing parenthood as a game where you reach an end-point and have won or lost, you have to just see those moments where you can say, “ok this is good – we did good this time”, and then you carry on and you try to do good again.
I really want to be able to say I did a good job with my bubbas by teaching them the values that I feel are important in creating happy, responsible and successful people. I want to model courage and caring, perseverance and creativity, citizenship and gratitude. When they meet a challenge in their lives I want them to draw upon these values and use them to grow.
When brainstorming for topics I wanted to explore on A Happy Adventure the idea of writing a series based on those values leaped up at me.
Grow will be a monthly series based on the values I want my bubbas to grow up with. I love the idea of fleshing out these ideas online and hearing from you as to the values you find important and the ways you teach your bubbas to grow.